Gary Baker Counselling Services


I am an associate counsellor for Nuffield Health and a private healthcare provider for Aviva, Prudential Health, Cigna, Standard Life and Vitality. I have worked with adults and adolescents in various settings since 2011. These include working with The Priory, Roehampton as a psychotherapist and providing a counselling service within a NHS setting for a GP’s surgery in South London. My voluntary work for the Terrence Higgins Trust was manning a sexual health helpline offering advice and emotional support. I previously worked in the airline industry with British Airways for over 20 years. During this time I developed strong working relationships and have extensive experience of coaching and mentoring. I have been able to make good use of these skills in my counselling practice.

I offer counselling for individuals and couples covering issues such as:

  • Abuse
  • Anger management
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement
  • Bullying
  • Coaching
  • Depression
  • Fear of flying
  • Low self worth
  • Managing change
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Sex and sexuality
  • Stress

Areas of Interest

Fear of flying:

Fear of flying was something I encountered regularly in my working life as cabin crew. The impact this had could be devastating. Well earned holidays with those we love spoilt or missed, the make or break business deal taking a back seat - all due to the overriding fear that something truly awful is about to happen. Understanding your fear is a key component in being able to manage it. To do this I can offer you a tailored therapeutic service that combines nearly 25 years' experience in aviation with a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy approach. To find out how this can help please get in touch.

Anxiety and stress:

Stress is the result of an imbalance between the demands made on us and our personal resources to deal with these demands. Anxiety is the more extreme version of this with the added fear that something truly awful is about to happen. In my counselling practice I have worked with this in many differing presentations ranging from the stressed out business person to the anxious parent. Stress and anxiety corrodes our self confidence because it gets harder to do the things that were once easy. We cope with this by avoiding situations that feel stressful or trigger our anxiety. This in fact entrenches the fear and this pattern of coping is known as a vicious cycle. The more we avoid the more fearful we feel. Counselling can help identify vicious cycles, specify triggers and interrupt the cycle replacing it with a healthier adaptive cycle.

“My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened” - Montaigne.

Sex and relationships:

Counselling provides the opportunity for exploring and understanding our past and present relationships. This self discovery can lead to a more fulfilling life and more meaningful relationships. Sex is an important part of how we relate and communicate within our relationships. Often what happens in our sex life can reflect (or symbolise) what is happening more broadly within our relationships. Exploring this can lead to a greater understanding of how we relate to each other and the meaning this has. Communication is a key part in building and maintaining our significant relationships. Counselling can help develop skills in communicating our sex and relationship needs. Sexuality is an important part of our identity. Exploring our sexuality and how we identify with it is a vital part of understanding who we are.

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